So imagine that you just met your now-ex — at a party, work, school, gym, with friends, in the hot tub — whatever would be plausible now at your current ages and location. We were comparing notes about our recent dating lives. And our frustration at finding a sweetheart who had the means, time and desire to travel, and who had mutual attraction.
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The ratio 11 to 1 kept floating across my frontal lobe. Eleven to one in all different sizes and typefaces — actually hovering in my mind, mocking me. I already feel disadvantaged in the dating scene by the physical changes in my body: My skin is slowly melting down over the bones of my face. Mary moved to Minneapolis/Saint Paul to start a new chapter of her life. I moved to southern Florida to start my new singlehood, but I am probably two decades older — and tanner, I might add. Through the next couple of weeks and months (perhaps years), I am going to share my trials and tribulations, my insights, dating tips and hopefully my ultimate success at reconstructing my shattered life into something beautiful, centered and fun. It’s going to be an absurd, funny and, yes, sometimes sad account of a single, 50-plus-year-old woman attempting to find herself, her soul mate, her serenity and, most important, her sanity and sense of humor.
Eleven to one is the ratio I read earlier that night on an online dating website: If you’re in your 50s (the new 40s!
What I find most interesting at this point is the whole dating scene.
We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids.
I may be generalizing but do you see the same thing? If in your 40’s, it seems OK to me to date guys in their 30’s, 40’s or 50’s. Guys in their 30’s are definitely out, guys in the 40’s might work, but they might want women in their 30’s or 40’s, guys in their 50’s definitely want girls in their 30’s or 40’s, and guys in their 60’s are just too old. Being new at this, I’m going to go for just being my Gosh darn self and if someone wants to date me, great, and if they think I’m too old, then so be it.