If this scene were to be reenacted in real life, it would certainly raise some eyebrows and gasps. Whether or not a man or woman are friends, strangers or co-laborers, if the individual is married it is generally understood in the Church that “going out” with someone else, someone other than his or her spouse, is unthinkable.
I hope as you read this short scene, you felt uncomfortable.
What was a married woman with four children and a seemingly strong marriage thinking to go out with the husband of another woman? Sister Gordon and Brother Jones were capable adults with years of world experience.
Under this code, all members are taught to be "morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions" and to abstain from pornography.
filthy communications, impurity, inordinate affection, fornication. They included all sexual relations outside marriage—petting, sex perversion, and preoccupation with sex in one’s thoughts and talking." Though celestial marriage is the only form of marriage recognized as a sacrament, the church permits sex within government-recognized marital unions, the notable exceptions being same-sex marriage, common law marriage, civil unions (in jurisdictions where marriage is available), and polygamy.
If you put your arm around someone on a date, what are you saying (without using words)? And that's exactly why we have to be careful - because we could be telling lies with our actions.