It's enough for any of us to ditch the whole date entirely and throw that prospect in the bin. Sounds to me like you're projecting a fantasy on this guy because YOU are bored and want love. He's far away and it's easy to make someone you've never met into the man of your dreams. He hasn't even shown a lot of interest in you; or at least, not enough to get excited about.The fact that he was coming from out of town made the stakes that much higher. To be honest, I can't say I would have gone through with it either. If you do decide to meet in person, get yourself some realistic expectations.
The physical element is an important one for communication and affection.
How can an online relationship succeed when it’s missing a huge chunk of the process?
Nothing deep, but our conversations are always pleasant and enjoyable. I'm going to be in his city soon and don't know if I should see him. Going from online to meeting someone in real life is nerve-racking -- even if online dating is the new normal.
I like him, but maybe he talks to me only when he's bored. You meet someone on an app or website, talk about everything, and then when it comes time to meet you can't help asking yourself questions like, We've all been there. I'm not saying people don't fall in love over the waves of cyberspace and live happily ever after. But given your letter, a passionate You asked if he's chatting you up because he's bored, and I would say that's exactly what's happening.
There are two possible outcomes in this situation: 1) He is going to be a big let-down, end up being flaky and unreliable, or just not as fun as you thought.