Being betrayed by two people you care about has to be one of the worst feelings ever, especially when things are done in an underhanded and sneaky way.Despite the fact that basic girl code rules say we can’t date our best friend’s ex (unless we have her permission and even then, ), people always do it anyway.
I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!
I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.
Vanessa was yelling and crying, sure, but obviously this was a huge shock.
She told Tara that if she ended the relationship with Bryce now, all would be forgiven, but Tara couldn't believe Vanessa would make her choose.
She loves you and wants you to be happy, but if you ultimately want the same, you won't choose dating her recent ex to be your newest source of happiness.