Worrying that there is a problem often creates one whether there was one or not.In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. When you eliminate the care (or worry or stress or whatever you want to call it), you are free to really be in the relationship. Realize stressing gets you nowhere First, you need to realize that getting all wound up over the state of your relationship serves no purpose, ever.I'd hear the usual, "Don't kiss on the first date," "Wait at least two days to return his call," "Don't give it up too easily." When I was younger, I would adhere to some of these guidelines, but always netted out feeling, "It's all too much. I want to be honest about how I feel and let a relationship unfold naturally." So, years later, when I finally read , I was ready to roll my eyes before even cracking open its digital cover.
This is what I tell everybody, and this is what I do myself. In order to be able to go and meet somebody, you’ve got to start dating yourself. There are going to be other people there doing the exact same thing you are. You had a great conversation over Whole Foods dinner.
Instead of renting movies from Netflix when I wanted to see a new movie, I made sure that I went to the video store so I had an opportunity to meet somebody. You may run into that woman when she is with six of her friends, and you will immediately (and without any pressure) have an “in” into that group of women.
Instead of making tea (since I don’t drink coffee) at home, I’d go to a coffee shop and sit there to drink my tea. Even though you weren’t attracted to her, she was still a nice person to hang out with at the time.
I’d bring a newspaper, hang out and just talk to people there. And now that you did that, when you see her now with her friends, you can walk right over to her and say, “Oh my God, it’s my dinner partner from Whole Foods a few weeks ago!
The next step is to get to the root of it and figure out how to solve it.