Please also note that posts have been gender neutral since autumn 2010.** In my book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, I share some of the most common signs and behaviours that indicate that you’re involved with a Mr Unavailable – an emotionally – and often spiritually and physically – unavailable man.
What I can assure you of is that their unavailability isn’t sparked by something you said or did, it’s not that they’ve ‘changed’ and that you need to find the right ‘access code’ and you’re definitely not going crazy; they’re More often than not, the primary issue that women focus on is the emotional unavailability but there are always physical and spiritual issues to prop it up.
Mr Unavailable isn’t a Bad Boy per se and has nice qualities, which is what keeps the millions of women lingering around.
The "booby prize" in life is trying to understand or change the behavior of an emotionally unavailable person.
(Only they can change themselves.) People can be for both healthy and unhealthy reasons.
**Please note – Since I first started Baggage Reclaim, while it’s still read mainly by women, I have a lot of male readers too, as well as readers in all types of relationship.