Whether your online messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections have one thing in common — they really hurt.What makes rejection even more painful is that any effort to understand what went wrong can easily lead to bouts of self-criticism and self-blaming.While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.
In fact, the overlap was so substantial, that when researchers gave people the pain reliever Acetaminophen (Tylenol) and put them through a rejection experience, they reported feeling significantly less emotional pain than those who did not receive Tylenol.
That’s why rejections hurt as much as they do, not because there’s anything wrong with you — because you’re simply wired that way.
Further, the asynchronous (non-real time) nature of the communication may foster a feeling of distance between people online. So in about 20 mins, I know everything about her (dating status, age, sex life, work, family etc.) and she knows almost nothing about me.
Anyone who enters the dating world is bound to encounter rejection.
Were you reaching out to someone who listed requirements that you did not fit? Pick yourself back up and keep moving along because you never know who you will meet. A friend of mine was making plans to meet with an online match when he suddenly went MIA. Sometimes people drop off and pop back up again at a future time, and then you can be the one to do the rejecting.