In my twenty-eight years of trying to walk with Jesus, I have been an active part of three churches – even being on staff twice at one of them – and I have learned so much from each one. Many of the churches made it abundantly simple for a newcomer to find the time and location of the next Divorce Care session, which was completely thoughtful and forward-thinking of them. I know that every sub-group has its list of concerns. I’m not going to attempt to quote statistics here – mainly because there is much disagreement on this topic – but I will say this: Even in our couples’ culture, there are many, many Single adults in the Church – never married, divorced, widowed. Like the awkward uncle who says totally inappropriate things at the holiday dinner table and you shake your head wondering how in the world you two can be related.
But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.
I love the Church and yet I have wrestled with the Church until I grew limp. Case in point, the time recently when I found myself scouring church websites looking up information about Divorce Care groups. I am sure that the website designers are probably all married. I am sure they probably thought they were making it easy for us singles to find our way around their site. SEE ALSO: Anyone Can Have a Singles Ministry Which is my point exactly: Listen, I know there are a thousand voices clamoring for attention in every congregation, that there’s a cause a day vying for someone to do something.
(Shout out to Audrua & Cody for the awesome conversation and laughter!
) The following observations reveal some of the challenges and realities about life as a single, young, youth minister.
There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.