Our relationship lasted longer and was in many ways more fulfilling than it would have been if we hadn’t waited. Here are a few things I learned from that experience…
The story of Queen Esther, a Jew, is a story of God’s sovereignty over her and the rest of God’s people and timing is everything.
King Ahasuerus ruled over an enormous empire, stretching from India to Ethiopia, and when he gave a banquet for the nobles and governors (Esther 1:4), the king requested the beautiful Queen Vashti, in order to show her off to his guests.
She refused, so the king’s attendants suggested he see the most beautiful women in the kingdom to select a new queen for himself (Esther 2:4-5).
The other women sent six months in preparing for this time (Esther -13), but it says of Esther, Esther had waited her turn and didn’t try to push her way ahead of the others. She must have known that God is sovereign and so she did what she was told. When Esther finally passed before the king, the king was instantly attracted to Esther.
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.